Because we most often learn what something is from what it isn't, let me start by telling you about the MeWay, followed by a description of the WeWay.
In my Master's practicum project at John F. Kennedy University, I discovered that there are patterns of interaction between people that either support or don't support them in generating productive and long lived relationships at home or at work. The pattern in most human relationships still prevalent today is what I named the "MeWay". MeWay relationships are those that are command/control, competitive, and blaming in nature.
In MeWay relationships, we interact in a rankist manner. We are rankist in our behavior when one person or a small group of people, decide for others, without their input, how the relationship will go or how the business will be run. Those who aren't in the decision-making position(s) are told how things will be. It is still common that those who earn the highest salaries or who have achieved the highest levels of education in the household or in a business, are given the power to decide for those whose earning and educational levels are deemed to be lower on the proverbial ladder of success in our American culture.
The power and income inequity in rankist MeWay interactions, generates resentment toward the person(s) in the decision-making positions that thus sets up an "us versus them" dynamic of all interactions. We see ourselves in competition rather than on the same team. As much as we may say we care about our life partners or our co-workers, the daily power inequity creates a lack of safety and trust between relationship partners. In turn that lack of safety and trust, causes partners to withhold parts of themselves from the relationship thus in the long-run harming the relationship because it doesn't have access to all the genius of both partners or all co-workers in an organization.
Essentially in MeWay relationships we are having to daily create personas that act in ways that are contrary to our authentic nature. The inability to be authentically ourselves, to share our individual truths creates separation between us and our time together becomes stressed and less meaningful. People leave MeWay relationships emotionally, psychologically first and then physically. Infidelity in marriages and firing/resignations/reduced productivity/increased negative stress in the work place are the unfortunate outcomes of MeWay relationships. No one wants to compete with their significant other or to compete with others at work. The tension and angst that the MeWay pattern creates kills relationships.
However, there is the choice of learning how to shift out of MeWay relationships into interacting in the WeWay. The WeWay is a pattern of interaction that is inherently collaborative, co-creative and cooperative. This pattern rests on the belief that "we are smarter than me." This belief is backed by research as noted in the book, "The Wisdom of Crowds" by James Suroweiki and/or "Crowdocracy:The End of Politics" by Alan Watkins and Iman Stratenus, as well as, "The Power of Partnership: Seven Relationships That Will Change Your Life" by Riane Eisler.
The WeWay understands that relationships are the vehicles through which every person is supported to live into fulfilling their full potential, to be authentically themselves, and to get their needs met. Essentially life is a relationship project. No one goes it alone and is interdependent on others to live a meaningful life. We do so much better in our relationships when we can be fully transparent about who we are and have that authenticity supported by our relationship partners.
Doing relationships the WeWay is about unearthing the authenticity of relationship or team partners, discerning shared values/gifts/talents, and then designing relational interaction patterns that align with the people in the relationship to accomplish their unique-to-them goals. There are no cookie cutter or one way to be relationships.
Essentially, a WeWay relationship lives and breathes to assure that each person is supported in living into their authenticity and full potential, and in return supports their relationship partner's to do the same. When all partners are free to be who they uniquely are love, respect, care, and passion thrive in deep meaning and generate the capacity for longevity at home and in the workplace. The more we know each other the better we all are!